Third Time is NOT so Charming

(Cont'd from "Like Fine Wine..." and "Catch and Release")


After a long stretch, Mr. B decided to contact me for a third date upon returning from his vacation home. We decided on dinner and afterwards, I was to introduce him to one of my favorite music venues down in LA.

He was just as handsome as I remembered. Over a sushi dinner, we caught up over the past two weeks since last seeing one another. After grabbing drinks at the bar, we were seated at the sushi table. Once again, the conversation turned to sex, or my lack thereof. This time it was not so much of a discussion, but a few dropped lines with a hint of mocking.

Mr. B: "(something kinda crude)" then... "Oops! I can't say that around YOU cause you don't do that..." This was followed with a chuckle by him and an awkward WTF? look from me. I may be abstinent, but I don't need him to talk down to me.

This was the first date that I had seen him have a couple glasses of wine, and I was not quite sure if it was the wine talking or the real Mr. B.

I felt myself cringing at Mr. B's attempt to say something in garbled Spanish to our Asian sushi chef. The sushi chef pretended not to notice, but I shuddered as I watched his eyes dart sideways as he prepared our special rolls. He was going to spit in them, I was sure of it.

The drive to our next location was EVEN better. Mr. B fiddled with my radio, seeking out specifically "Hair Band" music. Ok, I know that music is NOT an indicator in finding your future spouse, however there is only so much Motley Crue and this girl can handle. The hairline fracture in our age difference was beginning to widen into a crevasse.

We had a good time at Hotel Cafe (how can you not?). The drive home was a little different though, as the man who "respected" my values tried to smooth talk me out of them. This combined with the crude comments and him not walking me to my door sealed the deal.

It was amazing where three dates had taken me. First time, awesome. Second time, left me doubting...Third date, not so charming. I think I should have been listening to that voice that was telling me was not the path I was to take. Maybe it was the Holy Spirit speaking words of wisdom? Let it be...