I heard a new statistic that 1 in 3 ninth graders in the United States is sexually active. While this can be shocking, it only started more questions for me. At what age is it OK to be sexually active?
Over coffee, a good friend (a hot, divorced mom and abstinent like me) divulged her frustration with dating men who were Christians, yet insisted on sex prior to a marriage commitment. Most of these men were all divorced themselves.
At my work, we share the abstinence message to youth not ONLY because teens are more likely to use contraception incorrectly, but because there is way more than just possible pregnancy or an STI at stake. Sex can cloud our judgment on how the relationship actually is. I think ALL my friends (including myself) has dated a complete loser, cheater, beater or drug addict and could not seem to get enough. Why is that? Regardless of how mature or grown up we women appear to be, chemically speaking we girls attach or bond to men when sex enters the picture. (Google "oxytocin.")
Setting that aside, my saddest grief is the spiritual implications. God intended sex for marriage. Period. End of sentence. When we ignore this fact, we are being disobedient. Period. The other thought that entered my mind as I tossed and turned in bed was, that I am NOT my own. God owns me. We are NOT ours--we are His property. So any man or woman who wishes to have sex without marriage is attempting to sneak a peek at presents prior to Christmas morning. Some things are worth waiting for... How much fun is that?
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Amen Sister!
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ReplyDeletewith a 5th and 7th grader that is shocking. and i don't mince words. we talk details. and trust and protecting your own body. even as a boy. as i have two boys, it may seem "odd" but most of the conversations i have with them are ones most have with their daughters. but boys need that too! and getting to know someone before anything else is truly a gift...
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